Ep 207 A Legacy of Surviving Abuse: Live Free, Be Bold with Jilliann Woods

Jilliann Woods grew up in an abusive environement which didn't stop with her childhood. Because she didn't understand the oppression under which she was raised, she found herself in repeated abusive relationships. She finally realized that God created all of us to be heard and seen and empowered by His Spirit, she now lives free and boldly counsels and teaches multitudes of women so that they too can find our God-given freedom in Christ. Thank the Lord, for Jilliann's courage and love for others. Check out her two free resources on her website: jillian-woods.com. And pass them along to anyone you know who might need help in this painful and crippling life situation. 

Free guide: How to Climb Out of Oppression

Free printable: Bold and Free Manifesto

 

 

Some gems from our conversation:

• I thought it was my duty to be nice at the expense of being honest.
• All the things I wanted to keep secret, I now share to help others.
• One oppressive relationship when younger can lead to a series of abusive relationships as an adult.
• When you suspect someone may be in an abusive relationship, develop trust by just being there for them and then begin asking gentle questions.
• God gives us all kinds of permission to be bold. 
• I learned I do have a voice given to me by God, empowered by Him to be used by His Spirit.
• How does a woman transition from being "beside the point" to becoming the very point of her own life?

Jilliann Woods is a writer, abuse survivor, and founder of Be Bold. Live Free—providing
encouragement, coaching, and resources for women affected by abuse in close relationships. Currently,
she is writing a book for Christian women who seek a path to freedom from abuse and relationship
addiction. She is a certified Domestic Violence Peer Counselor. Jilliann is Mom to three amazing adults,
and Grammie to seven cherished grands. She happily resides on the Central Coast of California.

 

3 Steps to Take if You are in an Abusive Relationship:

 

[Safety first for yourself and your children. If physical violence is an issue, find safe shelter. If you don't have a place to go call: 800.799.7233]

1. Confide in a trusted friend. Even if you feel ashamed or embarrassed, a trusted friend will understand and realize the abusive behavior of your spouse is not your fault.

2. Find a mentor or counselor who is trauma informed. Someone who will know what you are going through. Ask your friend to help with this step. If you are a Christian, find a trauma informed faith-based coach or counselor. 

3. Be honest with yourself, don't excuse the abuse, and don't accept the blame for his behavior. Pray and ask God for guidance and courage.  

 

NOTE: In abusive marriages, Marriage Counseling is not advisable. You need individual counseling. The abuser must be willing to get help and do the work to change his behaviors first.

 

Click here for  FREE 5-Step Toxic Relationship Reset Guide (scroll to bottom of Jilliann's home page)

 

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